Friday, January 13, 2012

marriage

Dave and I were chosen for a marriage class with my church. It's a 12 week course and it's definitely something we need right now! We went to the first meeting this week and were able to meet new people and make new friends. There's a wide variety of people in the class from teachers to FBI agents. And they're all members of my religion so we can all relate. It's going to be such a great 12 weeks!! I told Dave that I wanted to document what we learn each week so we never forget it and maybe help a bloggy friend in need :)

For the first two weeks we're learning about happiness in a marriage. We have our little manuals and lesson plans but seriously only got a page into it cause we just wanted to chat and share experiences.. Who would have thought right?!

"Marriage... No ordinance is of more importance and none more sacred and more necessary to the eternal joy of man."
-President Ezra Taft Benson

Everyone deserves to find love and to be married to the love of their life. So many times we see people settling or not getting married at all. We see even more these days that people would rather move in with a boyfriend/girlfriend and give it a trial run to see if it'll work. And if not, they have an easy way out!

"While every young man and young woman will seek with all diligence and prayerfullness to find a mate with whom life can be most compatible and beautiful, yet it is certain that almost any good man and any good woman can have happiness and a successful marriage if both are willing to pay the price."
-President Kimball

More than 50% of marriages end in a divorce. I was so close to becoming a statistic but made a decision to recommit myself to Dave. We are willing to pay the price and struggle through our hard times and hope to come out stronger. We need each other to get through the day! Marriage forces a lot of people to grow up and mature. The average age a couple has their first child is 34. It's also a fact that people mature a lot faster with kids of their own. I can't imagine starting a family that late in life! I would be so exhausted!!

When I was a teenager fresh out of high school I got my own apartment. Like most teenagers living on their own I was broke. All the time! I had no choice but to move back home with mom and dad. It was horrible! Going from living on my own, making my own rules and doing whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted to having a curfew and all kinds of rules. I ended up getting kicked out for obvious reasons. I was so mad about it at the time but quickly thanked my parents for kicking me out because I was forced to grow up and take things seriously. My relationship with my parents thrived from then on. People are so spoiled these days and don't take being a grown up seriously. It's so sad! Being a grown up can be so hard sometimes but most of the time it's so much fun. Especially when you have a spouse to experience it with. 

It was a great class and I definitely walked away with satisfaction. I can't wait to go back next week! 




6 comments:

  1. Cute New Pictures!! And I can't wait to hear what you learn in the classes to come. I would love to do one of the couples classes. Being Grown up isn't easy but it is worth it! Thanks for sharing Denise! You Rock!

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  2. This is awesome! I'm so glad you were chosen for a marriage class! That must be a wonderful blessing for the two of you and I'm sure you'll be learning and growing so much :) I also want to thank you for being open and honest {as much as you are comfortable} with your relationship... the ups and downs. It's been really beneficial for me to read along throughout this. I'm sure I'll be emailing you at some point :)

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  3. I'm so happy for you! (: Keep up the great attitude!

    xo

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  4. I am so happy for you :) I can't wait to continue to hear what you learn. Also, I am reading Love and Respect right now and I recommend it for any married couple. Such a good book :)

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  5. Love this post! And I love that you and Dave are doing so much better! J and I went through the same thing, and even further. It's awesome to meet other couples who are working on a second chance... sometimes distance really does make the heart grow fonder :)
    Have an awesome weekend!

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  6. I just came across your blog and I love it! I love how open you are on your blog and I will definitely be following along.

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Thanks for making me feel all warm and fuzzy inside!! :)